A tricky situation has come to light where a married man is fed up with his wife’s addiction for ‘trading’. Sadly, the matter has gone to such an extreme, where the husband is now in financial debts due to the wife’s borrowings.
The couple has a minor daughter and the husband is now in a fix whether to file for divorce and if yes, will he ever be able to get out from such circumstances.
His Story
I am facing a very difficult situation right now. I have been married for the past nine years and we have a 6-year-old daughter. Shortly after the birth of my daughter in 2018, I learnt that my wife has a serious addiction towards online trading.
During that period, she incurred a debt of around Rs 35 lakh. When I was informed about this, it caused me a lot of stress, leading to frequent panic attacks and depression.
To make matters worse, one of my wife’s friends filed a false case against me to recover the loan money from her. Despite all this, I stood by my wife, paid off some loans, and even negotiated settlements with the banks. Over the past three years, we managed to clear almost everything.
After sometime passed, yet again, she repeated the same and borrowed money multiple times by mortgaging our family gold. This time too, I forgave her and we somehow navigated out of the situation.
But now, situation has totally gone beyond my control.
Recently, I received a call from a family friend stating that my wife borrowed another Rs 8 lakh from him and is now avoiding his calls and messages. I have learnt that her total debt as on date amounts to over Rs 30 lakh.
Despite me standing by her and bailing her out from these financial disasters, she frequently argues with my parents, who live with us. The matter is too much for me to handle, especially when I see my young child.
Given these circumstances, I am seriously considering to file for divorce to secure my daughter’s future. What are my options?
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Voice For Men India Take:
- We often crib how situations can be challenging for married women in their matrimonial homes
- But surely, there exists another side to these issues, where Men Too can be victims of such mental / financial abuse by wives
- According to the Protection of Domestic Violence Against Women Act (PWDVA), economic abuse is defined as depriving an aggrieved individual of any or all financial or economic resources to which they are legally entitled
- The act further states that depriving a woman of her right to continue using resources or services is also considered to be economic abuse
- On the other hand, India does not recognise any form of domestic abuse or violence against men (read: husbands)
- Thus, technically in this case, the husband can perhaps file for divorce only on civil grounds of cruelty by wife
- Divorce/Maintenance/Alimony laws in India completely tilt towards women
- Whatever the reasons may be, whether the divorce is initiated by the husband or the wife, an interim maintenance amount is awarded to the wife right at the beginning of divorce proceedings (largely on the basis husband’s income)
- Once the interim maintenance is granted, the contesting wife prolongs the main divorce petition for years and even perhaps decades, resulting in more agony for the aggrieved husband who has to constantly pay her monthly support through this period, without divorce
- Due to the nature of such laws, most wronged men in India, prefer to suffer in silence – either due to separation from children or due to years of harassment at court by wives who are themselves ‘cruel’
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