Adultery has been decriminalised in India since the year 2018. However, the same still remains a valid ground for divorce. Having said so, it is extremely difficult, almost next to impossible to prove allegations of adultery, as most of the evidences are rejected by court. This particularly happens where the women are indulging in infidelity outside marriage, and her right to privacy supersedes all other charges.
In many cases, courts have even awarded maintenance to adulterous wife, citing her act as “occasional lapse or solitary act”.
Recently, Voice For Men India came across an article published on the India Today portal, possibly a paid PR article by Gleeden – a dating app for married couples. This app claims to have a database of over two million married Indians.
The article published reads as below:
After six years of being married to someone her parents had arranged for her, 36-year-old Delhi-based fashion designer Sonali Jain (name changed) decided her marriage was unable to give her the acceptance and joy she desired. However, divorce was not an option for the sake of her ageing parents. And so, the couple decided to date privately. Gleeden, an app meant only for married people, helped rescue both from a relationship that was filled with anger, differences and disrespect.
On Gleeden, users say, one can openly find a satisfying relationship without having to lie about their marital status. Jain found a partner who is also married and unable to divorce, and while they remain officially hitched to other people, her newfound flame is her true husband. “A husband is someone who is your soulmate. You don’t need societal acceptance or government papers for it. In our hearts, we are together. What others think doesn’t matter because nobody even knows. We are very happy,” says Jain.
Many, like Jain, are discovering the advantages of open relationships. “Monogamy is sacred in many countries, so Indians are not really special when it comes to marriage. Even in the US, marriage is viewed through the lens of morality despite high rates of divorce. But I think people are more open today to an app like Gleeden, especially in cases where divorce is not an option,” says Sybil Shiddell, country manager, Gleeden India. “Many couples are now starting to have an open discussion about the limits of monogamy. In a long-lasting marriage, where a couple might no longer be able to connect, giving a free pass is done through mutual trust and maturity. Such open relationships are becoming acceptable, if not in the public arena, then certainly in private spaces.”
Gleeden officially launched in India in 2017 and has seen a phenomenal increase in number of users. They had one million users within three years and are now at two million—this is nearly 20 per cent of their global user base, making India an important market. Gleeden credits its success to the need it is catering to—for those in an unhappy marriage that cannot be ended, having the chance to meet someone they can connect to without having to lie about their marital status is a dream come true. “According to our marketing analysis, around 30 per cent of users on traditional dating websites and apps are lying about their marital status. This gives rise to misinterpretation and wrong expectations in a relationship. Gleeden is to give these people a safe environment to meet like-minded people with the same expectation—everything is clear,” says Shiddell. Subscriber numbers in India also boomed after the decriminalisation of adultery in 2018.
For most married users, privacy and anonymity are of paramount importance. “If my parents or in-laws found out that I am dating someone else, they would kill me. I am actually fearful of my life. Even if my husband is okay with it, the fact that the wife is with another man is seen as a mark of familial dishonour even today. And so, there is no way that I would want to be on an app that would reveal my identity,” says 39-year-old Bombay-based Deepika Tripathi (name changed).
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VFMI Take:
- Infidelity in marriage is a subjective matter
- While it is absolute taboo for many, it is also looked upon as a choice in the current times
- In our opinion, trust, and both mental and physical faithfulness becomes the crux of any matrimonial relationship
- Physical infidelity may not be planned, and many get involved in such relationships, where they enjoy multiple lives in their zones
- One gets involved in Emotional or Mental infidelity due to various circumstances in their home
- What may be immoral to you, may be moral and justified to the one indulging in the same
- The biggest issue with such relationships is where people want to live dual and selfish lives, trapping the other spouse for status in society
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- For example, the lady mentioned in the article above shares, she can’t end her marriage due to her ageing parents. She claims her husband is aware of her infidelity and is ok with the same. Whether the husband is OK, or threatened with repercussions of false matrimonial cases, is a matter of debate
- We are not pointing only at the women here. The article also speaks about Sonali’s dating partner, who is married as well
- On one hand, marital laws in India project all women as weaker spouse and victims; while in reality women are defying every single norm of a sacred bond
- Most of the false dowry and domestic violence cases are a result of wife being caught by the husband
- If women in India have and are progressing this rapidly, its time our country brings in a law, where either spouse can decide to end marriage, if the relationship has completely broken down
- Right now, our laws have empowered women to choose whatever type of life they want after marriage, yet burdening only and only the husbands to be their financial providers for life
Indian Matrimonial Laws: Marriage is Sacrosanct; Adultery is Choice!
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