If women have a difficult life, as they claim, #MenToo go through some extreme pressures, largely because they are perpetually labelled as sole providers of the family. If they fail to do so, they are ridiculed and mocked for not being men enough. Some choose not to emote their feelings what they go through, and some choose to end their lives.
One such sorrowful case has been reported from Kerjiwala village under Pasiana police station in Punjab, where a husband was pressurised by wife and her family, to celebrate their child’s birthday with great pomp and show.
The deceased, identified as 27-year-old Harvinder Singh, used to work as an interior designer in Punjab. He married Jyoti four-years ago. However, within six-months into the marriage, wife allegedly fought with the man, left him and returned to her maternal home.
Thereafter, for three-years, Jyoti chose to live with her maternal family, and there she also gave birth to their son. A Panchayat was set up in the village in the beginning of this year, where a unanimous decision was taken that the woman would return to her husband along with their child.
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On October 18, the couple quarrelled over their son’s birthday celebration. Jyoti, along with her maternal family allegedly put pressure on the deceased to ensure he threw a grand party for the son’s birthday which was coming up on October 29.
The husband was pressed to do so, and when he argued, Jyoti’s mother and brother once again landed up to take her and the grandson along with them. Harvinder tried to persuade Jyoti and his in-laws, and also told them that he would not be able to live if they take her again.
Around 4 in the evening, wife left home with her family, and within half an hour from her departure, the husband hanged himself from the fan in his room. His family tried to break open the door, however, by the time they were able to enter the room, their son was dead.
The deceased’s father, Amar Singh, stated in his complaint that the accused woman used to harass his son since their marriage. Harvinder was severely affected by the unpleasant situations created by his wife on numerous occasions.
The father also said that the woman would often leave their house with the child. On January 15, the village Panchayat agreed to let the deceased take his wife and son with him back to his home.
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For the past few days, Jyoti was allegedly forcing Harvinder for a grand birthday celebration party for their son. The husband was unable to afford such a large scale affair. When he informed the same to his wife, she even made her family pressurise him for the same.
After an investigation and based on the statement given by Amar Singh, the police registered a case against the accused wife, Jyoti, her mother, Kamlesh Rani, and brother Gagandeep Singh who are residents of Ludhiana.
All the three accused, wife, brother-in-law and mother-in-law are into police custody for questioning after Harvinder’s father filed a case against them, said ASI Baljit Ram. They will be soon presented in the court.
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Men in distress due to family problems and threats of false cases can contact either of the NGOs listed here: Men Welfare Trust, MyNation Hope Foundation, Save Indian Family Foundation, Vaastav Foundation
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