If you are an NRI groom looking for a bride from India, there are certain facts that you must be aware of. It is also advisable to understand the matrimonial laws that exist in India, clubbed with the very challenging legal system that make take decades for a divorce proceeding to end.
In most cases where innocent men, their parents, siblings are trapped, pressure is built on the groom’s family by filing false cases even under the criminal sections of the IPC. Somehow the husband and his parents have to come to the negotiating table, before they are set free. Of course, we are not generalising these instances, however, it is always wise to know what could be in store for you or your son!
His Story (As Shared By Husband)
I am average looking man from southern part of India. I was born in Bengaluru and raised with values of obedience and respect to elders. Though we belonged to middle class life, my parents struggled hard to give me basic necessities such as food, shelter and education. I have two sisters as well.
I toiled all my life and completed Bachelor of Arts from an esteemed institution. As a student of Sociology, we have always discussed about respecting women and striving to bring equality in the society. After getting a job in 2012, I could not continue my education further due to my financial condition.
I gave my best to the organisation I was working for, and I was also recognised with various awards. Subsequently, after doing considerably well, I was able to get one of my sisters married after availing a loan.
Life moved on and in 2017, I got an opportunity to be transferred abroad. I was elated and doing well for myself, which is when my parents thought it was time to get me married!
They shared my profile on a matrimonial site which was the biggest mistake we ever made! The girl’s side contacted us with their proposal and their family was able to convince my parents for the alliance. I was also excited about knowing my life partner and was looking forward to a new future. All expenses to be divided equally was discussed initially itself.
Our wedding took place in September 2019 and in October, I went back to the country where I used to work before the wedding. My wife and I had decided to relocate permanently and thus I also searched for her job. In the month of December, my wife, along with her parents, visited the country of my residence, where I lived on a sponsorship.
I took them all out for excursions and we had a very good time travelling everywhere. Later, after a month in January 2020, my in-laws returned to India. Since then, my wife’s behaviour completely changed and she started dominating over every micro decision.
She started asking me not to contact my family, block them and also not send any monthly expenses. I used to calm her down somehow and also I always tried to stay composed myself. I would take her out and spend time with her, however, she would pick up petty fights and demand that I take her back to India.
In February, we returned to India and she walked away to her parent’s home straight from the airport. I asked her to come with me, however, she stopped all contact. She also received calls from her HR department where she had taken up a job in the country of our matrimonial residence, however, she refused to return. This arrangement continued till July and later we learnt she was expecting our baby. Now, she had an excuse that she could not fly back and remained at her home, where later she had a miscarriage.
I tried every possible way to approach her and asked her to return to live with me, because I truly loved her very much. Less I knew that she was not interested in continuing further and had filed fake cases on me under Section 498A and others, even after I took care of her parents during COVID. Her family has alleged that I demanded a car, jewelry, etc. from them.
All My Dreams Have Shattered
Till today, I had entered the Police station only during my passport application process. I have never demanded anything from her or her family, but now I realise that the laws in India only favour one side — just on mere allegations from the woman’s side — no evidence asked whatsoever.
I really don’t know what the future holds for me, but I believe in God that He shall favour the righteous and help those who speak the truth.
I am certain I shall come out clean because I have not done anything wrong. However, the time that I am currently facing due to false accusations and cases, is affecting my health and mental peace, and also the same has taken a toll on the happiness of my old parents. Even after filing false domestic violence charges on me, my wife and her family seem to be unaffected and are enjoying their life.
My question to all who are reading this is Where is Equality? Why do we have such one-sided laws against Men/Husbands? Are Men not equal citizens of our great country, don’t we pay our taxes on time? Why are we made to suffer like this in the name of women empowerment?
You won’t realise the trauma unless you or your family goes through it.
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