A recent post about a senior citizen mother-in-law being thrashed by belts by her daughter-in-law in Haryana went viral. After much uproar on social media, National Commission for Women (NCW India) finally reacted today stating they have written to local police to take action.
Men’s Day Out reached out to the husband/son in this case, who has shared his side of the story in the matter. The details are shocking and brings out the ‘other side’ to women, which our society feels are the only eternal sufferers. The husband and his father both belong to our armed forces.
His Story – (As Narrated By Husband)
Couple has been married since 2008 and has two children – 10-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son. Husband is a resident of Bahadurgarh (border of Delhi and Haryana) where he resides with his old parents, wife and children. Wife belongs to Dwarka in Delhi and her father is a retired cop. Many of her family members are also in the police.
As on date, mother of the husband is 77-years-old fragile woman and his father is 80-years-old retired soldier who has rods in both his legs. Since several years, wife has been forcing the man to leave his parent’s home and settle in Delhi. Otherwise, she had put a condition for the matrimonial property owned by her in-laws to be transferred to her name. This had been a major point of conflict in their home for a long time.
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The woman would go out through the day and expected her husband and in-laws not to question her on her whereabouts or on the time she would return. She would tell her husband,
Apne Kaam Se Kaam Rakho (Mind your own business)
She would leave home at 6am and return at 7-8pm daily. Me and my mother would look after the kids completely. She as a mother was not bothered about the children, however, we once again overlooked the same.
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I had to now balance three families – wife and children, my parents as well as my sister’s family. I am providing every single thing for everyone in my capacity.
“My wife started telling my mother, Budhiya wapas kyon aa gayi?” (Why have you returned you old woman?)
In 2018, you got saved, I shall beat you even more now.My parents don’t have smartphones so they dont know how to record her behaviour.
My mother was removing milk from the refrigerator, when my wife took away the can and threw it on her face. She also started spitting water on my mother and father. The minute I pulled her hand, she hit me badly on my tail bone.We then had to call police and and she too counter filed complaint against us. Police came and only took her for medical, while I was bleeding, couldn’t’ even stand properly, but they never bothered about me.
Lady investigating officer called me once and told me that you must leave this woman as soon as possible else she will kill either of your parents. I asked her if there was any pressure on her, she said no. Later she forwarded complaint to SDM and we have been summoned on July 13.
On June 21, I returned from Gurugram to Bahadurgarh and parked my car. I started sprinkling water around, when I started hearing loud sounds from inside my home. When I rushed inside, my wife had choked my mother holding her neck onto the wall and beating her black n blue with a belt. My children were crying. She had also locked my father in his room.When I pulled her away, she bit my hand so badly that there was a deep cut. My wife again went and hit my father with a rod and he too started bleeding. When I picked him up, she again kicked him from the back.She then locked all three of us in my parents’ room. Fortunately we have access from the backdoor. I left my parents there so that I could bring the car and take them to the hospital. I alerted the PCR on the way while walking to the front gate. When I reached the main door, my wife locked the main gate from inside. Our neighbours gathered who urged her to open the door, however, she threatened one of the ladies as well.In the meantime the police arrived and made her open the main gate. Police saw her with the belt. My daughter had also called on child helpline and complained against her mother. Child helpline just called once but did nothing.
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The same lady investigating officer returned and told me how my wife had crossed all limits that day and I should have beaten her back. I just told the officer that I had responsibilities and could not afford to go to jail.By now, my wife hurt her own self as well to show some small bruises and injuries. Police saw my mother bleeding but did nothing. However, they were prompt to take my wife in their own jeep for her medical. The police also registered a formal complaint against me, my parents and my sister who lives in Gurugram – but no FIR against wife. When we told them we are going to seniors, they wrote a small complaint against her.
As On Date
Hospital asked us to take my mother to Rohtak PGIMS for further assistance. Her backbone was ruptured because my wife kicked her hard. Her body is full of belt marks – first they turned black and now they are turning yellow. Till date, the police has not even bothered to go to the hospital to ask for her medical record.Hospital has informed us that my mother can get paralysed any moment. Due to fear of corona, I got my mother home as she was prescribed bed rest. Although, her health is now improving.
Husband’s Concluding Words
I am dragging my mother on a wheelchair in this heat. Where is justice, what is this law? I have worked in a government organisation and exactly know how NHRC and NCW work. Unless some story goes viral, they do not take any action. Or one has to be super influential for them to revert.Wife is still in our home only. She mocks my parents daily showing them middle finger and telling them how they got saved again.My in-law’s have been instigating my wife, however, the police has not summoned them even once. Psychologically my mother shivers every moment, thinking she will get beaten up again. My sister wants to take her along, but my mother cant’ leave father alone at home.Our democracy has no value. Today the woman who has made our life hell is sleeping comfortably in AC, and we have been accused and harassed. It has come to a point where my mother wants to end life.I want to tell people unless this happens with your family, you will never realise how biased our laws are. You will only realise this pain when it comes onto you. When I had been summoned to the women’s cell, I had also enquired where can Men go in such cases?My friends who know me since 15-20 years are instead laughing at me, that I got beaten up by my wife. I can’t tell them what i am going through or how I am feeling. We respect women, but all women are not the same.
Update As On July 2, 2020
उपरोक्त मामले की शिकायत पर तुरंत कार्रवाई करते हुए पुलिस द्वारा थाना सेक्टर 6 बहादुरगढ़ में आरोपी महिला के खिलाफ मुकदमा नं.163 दिनांक:21-6- 2020 दर्ज किया गया। पुलिस द्वारा अभिलंब कार्रवाई करते हुए पीड़िता की आरोपी पुत्रवधू को शामिल तफ्तीश करके नियमानुसार उसे जमानत दे दी गई।
Thanks @jhajjarpolice .Today the #Police took action. Collected the Belt and others items used by the accused lady for assaulting my mother. Statements were collected and the Investigating Officer was positive for action. Hope accused be arrested soon. @ArnazHathiram
— Capt. G.S. Rathee (@CaptRathee) July 3, 2020
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