We have always been told “God couldn’t be present everywhere, so He made Mother”. However, by drilling such marketing phrases in the minds of children as well as adults, we are only demeaning the role and importance of “Other Parent” – The Father.
Somewhere, we have put all Women on a pedestal, declaring them to be free of any vice. However, in the real world outside ‘Brand Feminism’ Social Media, there are several ground stories which never reach a larger audience. Of course, such stories do not paint all women as ‘not so good mothers’, but these are important because our laws are heavily tilted towards all women by default.
Here’s a short story narrated by a Son, that we came across on Facebook:
We were a small family me, younger sister, dad and mom. My mom got into an affair and we got shattered. Parents got separated. Mom took my sis with her and I was left with dad. All happened during my primary school days.
After few years, dad got married to my present mom. I got another younger sister (step mom was a widow with a child). I was studying 5th standard. Another sister was born. Then, I had two sisters with me. Initially it went well, we were happy.
Me, mom, dad, sister and grandma (dad’s mom) stayed together. Somewhat life was going normal with happiness and small issues with step mom as it happens everywhere. I got adjusted to it. Then grandma passed away when I was in 10th std. Really missed her. This is where it started. My mom started torturing me a little. Didn’t serve food properly. She used to scold and poke me a lot indirectly, with the story of my real mom. Once she criticised me saying that I may have AIDS.
I used to cry a lot during night. But I was bearing all of it and I understood that this is how it will be with a step mother and I had a positive thought that my situation will change and she will love me after some days or years and I loved her very much and considered her as my real mom, even though these tortures were happening.
Dad couldn’t interfere much because she will make a big fight if she is questioned about it and again blame on me for that fight as well. And, even I didn’t bother my dad because I thought at least he got a partner until his last days to travel with. He has some health problems as well. So I didn’t wanna mess him into this.
He bought a new home on mom’s name. I was left in hostel to complete engineering. I always wanted to stay at home. But nobody cared about my wish. Dad also convinced me saying that if I be away from home, I could live freely without mom’s torture. I agreed and left home for 4 years to complete degree. My friends used to take dirty clothes home, so that their mom could help them to wash. Initially even I use to carry clothes home. But once my mom scolded me for it and from then, I used to wash everything in hostel only. Such small problems were going on.
Whenever I reach home I thought they will welcome me with good food and care, as all my friends got at that time, but all I could see is my mom’s irritated face on my arrival stating that why the hell I come home. I like my family very much and wanna stay together. But couldn’t get that peace.
Fast forward couple of years from my college days. I stayed few more years away from my home due to job locations.
Thanks to COVID, from 2020, I am working from home. So, I am staying with my beloved family and enjoying a lot. Am 27 yrs old now, but my mom’s thought on me, still has not changed. Even now, she hates me. She treats both my sisters same way, and me, in a different way. Sometimes she has scolded me directly asking that why am I staying for such a long time in her home and still am bearing all such words for my dad.
After these incidents slowly am loosing my hope. And now am realising that she will never treat me as her son. I think she may never change. I started avoiding unnecessary conversations with her now. Am not talking to her much. I don’t know how long we are going to live in this world. But my wish is to be together with whole family always, until the last one of us die.
To end the confession with positivity,
It is not that she was always rude to me. She had some good times with me as well. Like, we, as a family, have celebrated festivals together, had been to many trips, lot of picnics, functions, gatherings, etc. And also when it comes to family, she has contributed a lot like, being perfect homemaker, cooking, and taking care of whole family, supporting dad to build new home, saving money, etc. But when it comes to me, am suffering even now. I couldn’t sleep well sometimes due to the haunting memories and the fear for my future.
I wish, these sufferings to pass soon and hope to live peacefully with my family We realise mother’s love only when we don’t get it. Lucky ones are with mother’s love. Being unlucky, am still longing for it, Thanks for reading the whole confession.
MDO does not believe in being judgemental about any human………but the moral of the story is let’s treat Women/Mothers as Humans only.
My Mom Got Into Affair, Left My Dad….& Then I Got StepMom | His Story | Speak Up Men— Men’s Day Out (@MensDayOutIndia) April 21, 2022
"I didn't bother my dad as I thought at least he has a partner in his last days to travel with. He has health problems too. So I didn't wanna mess him into this": Sonhttps://t.co/9hPxswfbSd
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